The Girlfriendzone & Faux Friendships.

*Amen to the person that created the word and given the definition above.*

I'd always despised being 'girlfriendzoned'. When I read this extremely relevant article "Dudes, Stop Putting Women in the Girlfriendzone",  it was clear that my  ~slightly feminist side~ had to stand up for such behaviour and post a linked status on Facebook (what a hero).

I have always disliked it when guys wanted to 'befriend' me with the intention without knowing me in the first place (ok maybe just the seedy ones but anyway). "They only see a girl as a potential girlfriend (or sexual partner) and not a friend", they do not see the girl as a whole. For example, when acquaintances or people you just met try to act all nice with unnecessary body contacts, I can sense it that I am being 'girlfriendzoned'. Once they understand that I am uninterested in what they expect, yes, they lose complete interest in me as a human being.

So, there was a little debate which took place on my Facebook post; this is where I had realised there were a multiple ways to perceive this issue. I'd like to assert that I'm not talking about the 'rejections' girls get nor denying the right for guys to pursuit their feelings for someone, but the fact that those guys lose interest in a girl as a person when they find out that she will not fulfil their relationship status and sexual desires or whatever else. And it's a turn-off of them as a person.

I believe that, sometimes it's okay when the intentions are reciprocal and it does really depend on social situations. When you are in places like night clubs and parties where you go to have fun and you both find each other sexually attractive - it's okay. It's like you see a guy and don't see any deep relationship to be developed but take advantage of the situation & mutual intention anyway.

I just do not like being 'Girlfriendzoned' by randoms and new acquaintances in a socially inappropriate manner. It just feels uncomfortable.